"She seems so cool, so focused, so quiet, yet her eyes remain fixed upon the horizon. You think you know all there is to know about her immediately upon meeting her, but everything you think you know is wrong. Passion flows through her like a river of blood.
She only looked away for a moment, and the mask slipped, and you fell. All your tomorrows start here.”
When you gaze at the sky at night, I’ll be living on one of those stars, I’ll be laughing on one of those stars, and you feel as if all the stars are laughing. You’ll have stars that know how to laugh.
One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.
You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister. Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.
Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.
Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.
Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
Paulo Coelho, posted Oct 30th on his blog.
* For you, who lend me your shoulder when I am broken apart and almost die. Now, let me hold your hands. Big hug, my dear big girl who has a very beautiful heart*
Beberapa hari terakhir ini, banyak cerita dan baca cerita sekitar topik “menjadi diri sendiri”.
Hari gini, banyak hal yang mendesak kita untuk berlaku menjadi orang lain. Seperti di pekerjaan, berusaha keras untuk disukai bos dengan mengikuti style bos, di pertemanan berusaha keras menjadi teman yang menyenangkan dengan jadi over permisif, di special relationship dengan mengorbankan teman&keyakinan demi bisa bersama dengan pasangan.
Kalau dilakukan dengan sadar dan siap menjalani resiko-nya, sepertinya hal-hal tersebut masih dalam kategori menjadi diri sendiri, ya?
Lain cerita kalau jalan yang sudah dipilih ternyata di tengah jalan tidak sesuai yang diharapkan, lalu keberatan dengan resiko, lalu kecewa dan ingin kembali ke keputusan lama, nah baru tuh masalah.
Menurut gw, saat ini salah satu bentuk menjadi diri sendiri adalah membuat keputusan sesuai dengan kebutuhan dan keinginan diri sendiri.
Mengetahui benar apa yang diinginkan, tidak menjadi beban saat menjalani, memberi berkah dan tidak menyakiti hati yang lain, adalah jalan menjadi diri sendiri.
Be yourself, because in the end there’ll be only two. Family, friends, colleagues will gone in the end.
Tiba-tiba rindu jaman rajin ngeBlog dulu di blogdrive. Setiap hari, selalu menyempatkan diri baca blog-nya @yohsandy @pashatama @petitepoppies @teppyteppy dan tentu saja @miund *lebih ke arah cemas digosipin kalo di blog Miund :))))) *
Sekedar tanya kabar di chatboard, comment-comment di postingan gambreng, dan saling memberi semangat kalau postingan berisi curhat atau kesusahan.
Karena jadi rajin membaca, jadi rajin menulis juga. Good habit. Less stress, gain information.
Most of all, meluangkan waktu untuk teman-teman *yg notabene waktu itu belum pernah ketemu fisik* adalah menyenangkan.
Aren’t we feel loved when people you love make their time for you?
Bapak & Ibu di Bandung mulai bersiap-siap untuk pindah ke rumah yang lebih kecil, mengingat sehari-hari sekarang mereka cuma hidup berdua. Rumah dengan 4 kamar tidur cukup merepotkan buat usia kakek-nenek macam mereka :D
Mulailah memilih dan memilah barang mana yang mau dibawa, disumbangkan dan dibuang. Dapat ditebak, pasti paling banyak yang mau dibawa. Lebih tepatnya dibawa untuk disimpan, karena sudah tidak ada fungsi fisik-nya.
Bapak banyak mau bawa buku-buku, koleksi CD karaoke dan tentu saja koleksi foto albumnya. Dia hobi fotografi waktu muda. Puluhan album foto = paket kenangan masa muda dan keluarga. Masing-masing anak punya sekitar 4-5 album. Dikalikan 4 anak, jadi sekitar 16-20 album. Belum termasuk foto keluarga dan hasil “hunting-an” dia pribadi.
Ibu banyak bawa buku dan perintilan kategori sampah dengan label “siapa tahu suatu hari nanti kepake lagi”. Tidak seperti layaknya ibu-ibu, dia sama sekali nggak punya koleksi piring, gelas, panci dan peralatan masak. Ada syukurnya juga, nggak rempong mikirin space.
Sisa barang lain yang ingin dibawa : meja gambar mekanik - dengan alasan di meja itu ke-empat anaknya belajar menggambar.
Meja belajar kakak nomor 1, dengan alasan kalau kangen si kakak Ibu bisa membaca di meja itu.
Mesin jahit tua, dengan alasan waktu gw kecil suka “camping” dibawahnya.
Digabungin semua, tetap saja banyak. Dan kebanyakan dengan alasan “ada cerita kenangannya”. Romantisme cin.
Suatu hari nanti, kalau gw pindahan, sepertinya hanya akan bawa 1 lemari berisi pakaian+baju+tas, 1 rak berisi sedikit buku+ koleksi CD+DVD, 1 laptop dan beberapa external hard disc.
Karena semua kenangan terekam baik di otak, hati, blog dan hard disc. Romantisme era digital dong ciiiin. Hahahaha.
Me : Kamu mau hadiah apa untuk ulang tahunmu? Her : Apa yaaah. Aku mau disayang aja sama kamu ;) Me : Kalo itu kamu ga usah ulang taun, aku udah sayang banget sama kamu ;) Her : :* sayaaang Ngeri nggak sih, kayak obrolan orang pacaran? Hahahaha. Terima kasih @muning, this is sweet :) Jadiiiii kamu mau hadiah apaaaa?
I today a received an email from a very close friend of mine. I asked her if I could share it here, and she agreed)
Feb 14, 2011
Amongst all the activities I enjoy in London (shows, galleries, big parties etc…), the moment I enjoyed and cherished most was spending time with my 86 year old neighbor, who always took time to make me his own special coffee with a plate of cookies so graciously served to me on a white linen We used to spend hours talking…primarily me talking and he listening… with his advice whenever I asked.
Yesterday, I sent an email to him (the text is not mine) which was bounced back to me, and after having my husband (who is presently in London) check on him, I received a call to tell me that he had passed away on Jan 28th. My message of appreciation to him was a bit too late…
Below you find my message
Recently I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure.
Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the father said, ‘I love you, and I wish you enough.’
They kissed and the daughter left. The father walked over to the window where I was seated. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but I could not refrain from asking:
‘When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, ‘I wish you enough.’ May I ask what that means?’
He began to smile. ‘That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.’
He paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and he smiled even more.
‘When we said, ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.’
Then turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more..
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting…
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good- bye.
So, what is happiness? I’m pleased to start writing some articles on happiness and personal growth for the online opinion page at CentreDaily.com. I hope you find the pieces to be illuminating and helpful. Thinking about a kickoff article, a definition of happiness seemed a good place to start so we can get an idea of where we’re headed.
There are many definitions of happiness — some true but partial, some interesting but impractical or too cryptic.
Best New Year’s resolution: Become a happier person
Given that our emphasis will always be on the practical and actionable, let’s start with this: Happiness has much to do with how we feel, what we’ll call “energies.” We can have everything in the world but if we find ourselves with significant amounts of negative energies in our lives (listlessness, purposelessness, anxiety, worry, fear, frustration, anger, jealousy, hate, shame, etc.) we’re not going to be happy.
On the other hand, if we have a lot of positive energies in life (enthusiasm, love, thankfulness, inner peace, humor, joy, inspiration, etc.) we’re going to be happy regardless of other factors.
Following that, we get a simple but powerful definition of happiness. Happiness is being on a continual upward path away from negative energies and toward bringing more positive energies into our lives. That’s it. Who doesn’t want more love, inspiration, enthusiasm, meaning, etc. in their lives?
And here’s the really good news. The wonderful truth of our human nature is that each of us is given all the tools and resources we need to bring those wonderful positive energies into our reality at any moment, even all of the time and no matter what the situation.
Not that this is easy. But it is possible. And to the extent we can do this, life on all meaningful levels is greatly enhanced.
One key point or image that we’ll expand on going forward is that we have a “higher nature” or spiritual nature that we might say is the source or well that we draw from when bringing these positive energies into the moment. As we’ll see, happiness has much to do with development of that component of our human nature.
That’s a lot of ground to cover in a first article. We’ll continue to offer insights on our human nature, these tools and resources and how to put this knowledge to use to make our lives better.
An additional article on New Year’s resolutions and our common struggle to achieve behavioral change is attached to this column on the online opinion page at CentreDaily.com.
Russ Lawrence, of State College, is a human resources professional and author and creator of a book and musical CD called “Assembling the Happiness Puzzle” ( www.happinesspuzzle.com).
He hosts a radio program on WBLF 970 AM at 11 a.m. Saturday. Readers can write to him at email@example.com.